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ArmsOfLove · 04-27-2012, 12:44 AM

The article about it addresses what is meant by it and none of that is in there. fwiw it's our family motto that I shared with the world in the context of encouraging other families to come up with their own mottos. If there's baggage attached to the phrase for someone then by all means word your own motto

When I use the words my children know what I mean--since they are the ones I'm disciplining that is what matters most

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also, there is no hint at all of giving others less than good treatment. There is a very sad reality that if you're yelling at your children and the phone rings you'll pick it up and sound sweet; if you're screaming at your mom and your friend asks you to come out and play you'll smile and run off and have a great time. You give your best to the people and things that matter to you--and since God put you in a family it's important for your family to matter to you. If you give your family garbage, it will affect your own development. You will be the worse for it.

How we treat people is a choice. I believe we need to own that choice. And I believe that choice comes with natural consequences. You don't get to treat your parents like they are garbage and then have them give you all sorts of amazing things.

And keeping in mind that our family is alphabet soup wrt special needs dx, I'm not talking about unrealistic expectations. In our home we treat each other with respect. When we don't, we apologize and make amends. And if we can't muster even that then we don't take our grumpy selves around other people.

04-27-2012, 12:44 AM	#9
ArmsOfLove Rose Garden Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 79,607	Re: Family Gets Your Best or No One Gets the Rest Help? The article about it addresses what is meant by it and none of that is in there. fwiw it's our family motto that I shared with the world in the context of encouraging other families to come up with their own mottos. If there's baggage attached to the phrase for someone then by all means word your own motto When I use the words my children know what I mean--since they are the ones I'm disciplining that is what matters most ---------- Post added at 11:44 PM ---------- Previous post was at 11:39 PM ---------- also, there is no hint at all of giving others less than good treatment. There is a very sad reality that if you're yelling at your children and the phone rings you'll pick it up and sound sweet; if you're screaming at your mom and your friend asks you to come out and play you'll smile and run off and have a great time. You give your best to the people and things that matter to you--and since God put you in a family it's important for your family to matter to you. If you give your family garbage, it will affect your own development. You will be the worse for it. How we treat people is a choice. I believe we need to own that choice. And I believe that choice comes with natural consequences. You don't get to treat your parents like they are garbage and then have them give you all sorts of amazing things. And keeping in mind that our family is alphabet soup wrt special needs dx, I'm not talking about unrealistic expectations. In our home we treat each other with respect. When we don't, we apologize and make amends. And if we can't muster even that then we don't take our grumpy selves around other people. __________________ Crystal "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." Maya Angelou

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