DebraBaker

I am agreeing with Heidi.

I think the message in Created to Be... will reinforce abusive dynamics within Christian households (the ones that have the abusive dynamic.)

We were in a spiritual environment that encouraged this (about 15 years ago) and dh did become more controlling and abusive. Everything was put on my shoulders even when the blame was primarily his (you would think) the people who counciled us would turn the blame to me. I talked too much and I should never talk more than my husband (who is quiet, ha) and then I would try to heed their advice and they would turn around and say, "You're too quiet it makes your husband look bad because people think you're sad." I had to cook to please him and alter my tastes and personality to please him.

When I finally stood up for myself and created a boundary he became much nicer. In fact he's the opposite of what that legalistic system was creating.

I think the Pearls are a blight on the Christian landscape. They are creating bondage for women and children, encouraging sin and excess in men, and making us all the laughingstock of non-Christians who have a chance to observe this mess.

DB