[CelticJourney]

The rest of the letter is good- although, I would leave out your personal experiences. That's just my opinion. I know they can be powerful but the Pearls' and other pro-spanking people are full of warnings against "abused children" who "exaggerate and distort" their teachings

This is a good point. I've seen it happen before that someone stood up against abuse with themselves as an example and it was used against them to say they were over reacting

As to whether to start with your friend or the whole group. Pray about that - it could go either way. If you are close to this person and can go to her and say 'God has layed this on my heart, please pray about what I am convicted to do with me,' then I say yes. Otherwise, I would suggest giving it in written form. That way they can read and re-read it and cannot distort your words later.