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ThreeKids · 02-15-2010, 11:53 AM

When you get into this creepy concept of "defiance" or whatever it is these parenting methods claim to be responding to, you also get into situations, where, if a parent should realize they are wrong partway into "correcting" a child, they have to continue because the parenting methods don't allow them to take any input from the child as evidence they were wrong. Even reasoning from the child is to be taken as evidence the defiance is still there so nothing can stop the cycle unless the child can somehow fake repentance.

I can just imagine this child may have even tried to fake repentance at some point, but there was just no way to follow up with a correct pronunciation if she COULDN'T and the parents wouldn't take any amount of endurance on her part as evidence she couldn't from the beginning lest she "win".

02-15-2010, 11:53 AM	#21
ThreeKids Rose Garden Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: .. Posts: 10,737	Re: Another adopted child...parents followed Pearl methods When you get into this creepy concept of "defiance" or whatever it is these parenting methods claim to be responding to, you also get into situations, where, if a parent should realize they are wrong partway into "correcting" a child, they have to continue because the parenting methods don't allow them to take any input from the child as evidence they were wrong. Even reasoning from the child is to be taken as evidence the defiance is still there so nothing can stop the cycle unless the child can somehow fake repentance. I can just imagine this child may have even tried to fake repentance at some point, but there was just no way to follow up with a correct pronunciation if she COULDN'T and the parents wouldn't take any amount of endurance on her part as evidence she couldn't from the beginning lest she "win". __________________ DS (12), DD (10), DD2 (7) And my kids were going to behave perfectly all the time and if they didn't, they'd be Dobsoned, but I was going to Dobson so perfectly that they'd know not to slip up but once or twice because I was going to be sooooooo consistent and awesome and wise. Last edited by ThreeKids; 02-15-2010 at 11:58 AM.

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