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Old 05-09-2012, 12:57 PM   #7
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Default Re: How to give our children a chance of having a healthy self-esteem?

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Originally Posted by Aisling View Post
Value competency over praise. Truly. Offer lots of opportunities to do things by/for themselves, give plenty space for messing up/trying again, and focus on patience, unflappable problem solving. Offer positive feedback for effort and success, and don't be afraid to let them wreck things in the process. That's what childhood is for.

Model this also in your relationship with your spouse.


Everything else is gravy.
Well this is the about opposite of my childhood. No wonder I have about the hugest self-esteem issues one can have.

When you say "value competency over praise" do you mean to rely on building competency in your child more than you rely on puffing them up with praise??? I'm not totally spot on sure that I get what you are saying there and would love to delve into it more.

Thanks, by the way. I"m on a journey. I'm groaning on the inside right now about how hard this is going to be. my programming from my FOO is horrendous. It really, really is.
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