[Domina]

Originally Posted by Apple-Saucy

This makes me really angry

I fall into that category. I don't have the love at first sight thing happen. And I'm sure I appear to be indifferent to my babies. Mine have all been born by c-section and I've been on morphine. Also all of my babes have been taken to NICU regardless of if they actually needed to be in NICU or not.

You can't judge a woman's reaction to her baby child from a few hours of observation while she is recovering from birth. Especially not when you add in the after effects of pitocin, epidurals, narcotics, and surgery.

And frankly my first instinct is to make sure *i'm ok* I'm in pain and disoriented l can't move without assistance, I can't even lift my baby out of the bassinette without assistance.

No, that's a really good point. I think what my friend is saying is, you can't depend on a woman's passion for her baby to keep the baby safe, because not EVERYONE feels it right away. Could be due to medical issues, pressures in her life, drugs she's on, etc. You just don't know.

So there is some value in women having a set of principles to draw from in case the feelings take a while to kick in.

Hope I didn't hurt your feelings. That's all I was trying to say.