Thanks for the insight... I'm not a big fan of WOS (probably because of my friends who are, most also follow pearls and I lost a friend recently when she decided my being abused by my husband last year was because I wasn't respecting him enough and submitting the way I "should" which I have definite issues... my husband should not hit me and that is not something I will ever be ok with). I see my cousin as a very gentle man, though I know the church he is a missionary/leadership roll in is fairly fundamentalist. His wife is also a missionary, though, and I guess I can't picture her giving over every decision to him? Since this is their first son and the baby is only tiny still, I want to help steer them towards GBD the best I can while being clear about my concerns for the sources they've found especially since he mentioned he's not 100% on board with all their things.