I ended up changing course.
I still grilled the Japanese eggplant but topped it with olive tapenade and ricotta cheese (or plain, or with cheddar cheese for the picky ones). I garnished with grilled lemons for me and the kids stole them and then fought over them! <Grumblegrumble> A couple of years ago I discovered a Moroccan stew made from chick peas and carrots - it's seasoned with ginger, turmeric, and cinnamon and it's just delicious! I didn't have chick peas, though so I subbed lentils and it was almost as good. That over rice for those who wanted rice. Only complainer was Littlest, but she's four.