[bliss]

If your son was two, and sticking a fork in an electric socket, and you took the fork away and covered the socket, and he had a fit, would you give him the fork back and let him stick it in the socket so he wouldn't be sad any more? I wish I could help you get out of the mindset that somehow your kids being unhappy or even mad at you is bad. It's part of parenting!! Kids like to do awesome fun things that are unacceptable for a variety of reasons. It's our job to show them that, just because I want to do something, just because something looks awesome and fun, doesn't mean it's safe, or healthy, or morally correct, or in my best interest. Sometimes, as with the fork in the socket, that's going to make them mad! Heck, just last night I got to listen to my fifteen year old DD wail her way around the house for almost an hour because I wouldn't give her money for today because she didn't do cleaning stuff I asked her to do. Oh my goodness, you'd have thought someone killed a whole basket of kittens in front of her the way she was carrying on . But ultimately it's my job to be the parent. If I had given her the money, just to make her stop flipping a witch, I teach her 'you get whatever you want without any contribution on your part. Your emotions are weapons to be used to control other people.' Neither of which are life lessons I'm interested in instilling.

YOU ARE THE ADULT

YOU ARE THE PARENT

YOU DO NOT HAVE TO KEEP YOUR CHILDREN HAPPY 100% OF THE TIME