I really feel for you; I, also throw all this around in my head quite frequently. There truly is no perfect answer, is there. I'm glad you've come to peace about this. I tend to take h/schooling one year at a time too (and sometimes one day at a time!!!!). Of course, when we're happily homeschooling, then I decide to harass myself with which method I should really be using
sigh!! All the best, and I hope you have a brilliant year homeschooling!!!