[breezy88]

Thanks everyone. Ok now to try to remember what you all said. First of all I would like to put her in preschool again next year BUT that would mean paying the preschool and paying an aide since there is no preschool that will except her without an aide so that would end up costing me more money than just having the aide here at my house.
I do have mother's helpers I can hire and they would be great for entertaining my other kids so I could give Ava some one on one time. and cheaper!
I would like to hire an aide to do some of the more difficult tasks with Ava....someone who could implement our program, but they cost 20-25 an hour.
We don't get any respite right now but we are on the waitlist. If I could use all her money for weekly speech therapy and her aide I would be happy. My oldest daughter is already homeschooling through a private school ( they have weekly community classes ) and so A would be able to access their special needs program as siblings have priority. She could go to "school" for one full day and one half day a week at this school and still be considered home schooled. And it is free. But I do have to pay an aide and I would want to make sure they could actually teach her things there not just "babysit" her. Reason being is that they rent a church space rather than having an actual school and so they might not have access to all different kinds of activities that my daughter might need in order to make the learning at her level.
I definitely feel like putting her in school would be the selfish thing to do.
It is just so hard to keep her level of energy and make sure my other kids don't exclude her. ( which means I need to keep house tidy so she doesn't grab everything and doesn't need to stay in the baby gated living room.)