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Originally Posted by Domina
Just to throw another wrench in the works...
My best friend is an OB nurse and she says that instant, overwhelming, amazing, I Would Kill For This Child love that hit me the moment Sumo was born is, in no way, a universal experience. She sees many, many mamas who are borderline indifferent to their new babies or see them as a nuisance from the start. So their "mama gut" or "instincts" would be a highly unreliable well to draw from in caring for their children.
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This makes me really angry
I fall into that category. I don't have the love at first sight thing happen. And I'm sure I appear to be indifferent to my babies. Mine have all been born by c-section and I've been on morphine. Also all of my babes have been taken to NICU regardless of if they actually needed to be in NICU or not.
You can't judge a woman's reaction to her baby child from a few hours of observation while she is recovering from birth.
Especially not when you add in the after effects of pitocin, epidurals, narcotics, and surgery.
And frankly my first instinct is to make sure *i'm ok* I'm in pain and disoriented l can't move without assistance, I can't even lift my baby out of the bassinette without assistance.