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Originally Posted by Virginia
One person I want to be able to articulate to is DH. He was spanked growing up but has pretty good relationships with his parents
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I was spanked, and I as an adult have a very good relationship with my parents.
That doesn't mean that I want to do everything the same way they did, KWIM? They did what they did at the time because they thought they were doing the right thing-I hold no hard feelings toward them for it.
But I have reasons that I don't want to spank my kids. Some of them are related to how *I* reacted to spanking-ways that my parents still don't know. I can acknowledge that something hurt me/wasn't a good idea/is something I don't want to repeat without having a terrible relationship with my parents.