[KarenBoo]

Originally Posted by forty-two

Does she actually *want* to learn to appreciate this "stupid stuff", though?

I mean, I was definitely out-of-step with most teens as a teen, but while I wanted to not be left out, I didn't really want to *be* in-step with them, just accepted by them - I didn't want to change the things I liked or spent time doing. The internet essay "Why Nerds are Unpopular" pretty much summed up my teen years: yes, I was unpopular, and I didn't like being unpopular, but when it came down to it, I was not willing to do what it took to *be* popular. If the price of being popular is having to continually spend a huge chunk of one's time on "stupid stuff" - time that could have been spent on better things - then maybe not being popular, not connecting, is worth the cost .

This is her. She doesn't care a whit about it, but she doesn't want to feel left out either. Tough spot for sure!