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Originally Posted by Apple-Saucy
I wouldn't have her redo the walk "without attitude" that's smacks of that ol' "happy heart" stuff. She's clearly not happy, and it's OK that she's not happy. She just can't stomp through the house to make her point. If she's sulky but walking softer that's OK. The goal isn't to change her feelings/attitude. The goal is to change how she ACTS on those feelings/attitude.
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well I dont mind her being grumpy about what i originally asked her to go to her room about, it's being grumpy about my having her walk nicely that is annoying. does that make sense? And I want obedience not compliance. There is no reason for you to have an attitude toward me because I'm asking you to not walk like a dinosaur
And I am still in the camp that they n eed to have a happy heart. If my boss (I dont have one but figuratively speaking) asked me to clean up a mess I made- if I do it with an attitude that "I can't beelive he just asked me to clean this up- he's got 2 hands, he can clean it up himself" I'm going to feel gumpy and resentful. I dont need dd being grumpy and resentful. I"m going to help her have a happy heart when cleaning up her mess so that she's not resentful and grumpy.
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