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04-19-2005, 12:31 PM

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Another thing, and one I'm really addressing in my life right now, is the idea of "I can't" versus "I'm not going to". This has been big for me since the twins were born because when I'm sitting here with them nursing on me I *feel* like "I can't get up and help you" but the truth is I *could* set them off to the side of me and go do something else. Yes, they'd be upset and awake and cry and you can do this yourself *therefore* "I choose not to" get up and do this for you. Changing my thinking is helping me to feel more powerful right now

I deal with these feelings too. but then I also feel like its not a great choice, I can deal with my dd's behavior and then deal with a screaming baby and have to redo the whole routine to get him to sleep again.... or I can deal with her behavior from the chair (not dealing with it at all) .... either way I get frustrated... but I guess I need to figure that out....

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