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Originally Posted by allisonintx

I actually explained apologies and making ammends to my 65yo mother, recently.

It was like she had been hit by a bludger out of the blue. She had never ever apologized for anything or had anyone in her family apologize to her. She didn't teach apologies. She taught "you get in trouble, then admit what you did wrong and then you must act as ashamed as possible, feel as ashamed as possible and don't do it again."

When I apologized to her, for hurting her feelings, she didn't even know what to say....she said, "What are you doing? What is this?" and I had to say, "This is what healthy people do when they accidentally or even intentionally hurt one another. They apologize for hurting the person, and they try to make ammends where they can." I've never seen her so confuzzled.

Oh, how sad. I hope she can learn from it and find healing.