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StewardofLOs · 06-18-2011, 04:58 AM

Spanking "worked" on me. I was a "good" kid. Except for fights with my sister (which is a whole other topic) I was well-behaved and a great student. I was a "good girl" from a "good Christian home."
I also learned a very important lesson: LOVE = PAIN.
If someone loves you, they will hurt you. However, if you learn all the rules and work hard at obeying them, you can lesson the pain somewhat. And since God IS love, then it stands to reason that He will hurt you too, but if you obey all His rules you can avoid most of that pain.

And then I had a miscarriage, and pretty much lost it on God. I mean, it's one thing to punish me (even if I didn't know what I was being punished for), but to involve my child!? How DARE He!?

That was four years ago. It has been a long road, but I have gradually (thanks mostly to GCM

) come to a better understanding of what grace really means (because how can I GBD my kids if I don't understand and accept God's grace in my own life?) I have also spoken some with my parents, have come to understand why they did what they did, and I don't blame them.

But yeah, that's how spanking "worked" with me.

Oh, and I never told him this, but if DH had ever raised a hand to our kids, he would have been out on the street so fast his head would spin. Fortunately, He is a fully converted non-spanker now--again, thanks to you ladies on GCM

06-18-2011, 04:58 AM	#54
StewardofLOs Rose Trellis "What if Your blessings come through raindrops? What if Your healing comes through tears?" Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: southwest VA Posts: 2,649	Re: Spanking "works" Spanking "worked" on me. I was a "good" kid. Except for fights with my sister (which is a whole other topic) I was well-behaved and a great student. I was a "good girl" from a "good Christian home." I also learned a very important lesson: LOVE = PAIN. If someone loves you, they will hurt you. However, if you learn all the rules and work hard at obeying them, you can lesson the pain somewhat. And since God IS love, then it stands to reason that He will hurt you too, but if you obey all His rules you can avoid most of that pain. And then I had a miscarriage, and pretty much lost it on God. I mean, it's one thing to punish me (even if I didn't know what I was being punished for), but to involve my child!? How DARE He!? That was four years ago. It has been a long road, but I have gradually (thanks mostly to GCM ) come to a better understanding of what grace really means (because how can I GBD my kids if I don't understand and accept God's grace in my own life?) I have also spoken some with my parents, have come to understand why they did what they did, and I don't blame them. But yeah, that's how spanking "worked" with me. Oh, and I never told him this, but if DH had ever raised a hand to our kids, he would have been out on the street so fast his head would spin. Fortunately, He is a fully converted non-spanker now--again, thanks to you ladies on GCM __________________ Christina INTJ, T4 former high school teacher turned homeschool mom married 12 yrs to DH ENFP, T1 currently battling hemeralopia-induced blindness and chronic pain for the 3rd time mama to five: 10.5yo DS (my serious T4) 8yo DD (my sparkly T1) 3.5yo DD (my precious T2) one I will hold in heaven

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