[RealLifeMama]

Originally Posted by jamilyian

If I ever see someone doing something that I feel is *my job* then it sort of feels like a slap in the face. Like a reminder that I can't handle it. Anyways, just take the help you got. Sometimes I really do need someone (usually its my dh) to come in and clean up for me to get me back on track. I am ok at maintaining stuff, but when I slip and it gets too out of hand, then it is REALLY hard to clean. Sometimes I just need that extra help to get back on my feet.

I feel the same way!

I need the help, but always feel bad that I need it. But if it gets to a certain point, I just can't do it.

Hopesmommy, I hope you are able to maintain for a while. Your list makes me tired! Does it help you to have a list? A list that long would positively overwhelm me!
I am sorry you were embarassed- I would be, too, but grateful for the help.

Oh, and I have seriously tried the "they are just men" line with my DH for when he hosts, but he is totally not on the same page! I will work really hard to get things ready and have everything clean and he comes home and says "the house is a disaster" because there are some toys out or some "stuff" out- again, the tidiness thing. Anyway, he is always really particular about the snacks and dessert, too. This time, I totally blew it because he had bought some ice cream at the store and said that he had bought it for game night, and I said "Oh, OK, I can probably whip up some brownies if you want" and he was like "Oh, OK, great!!!!" But just Brownies is not enough for him. It has to be brownie sundaes, complete with homemade brownies and whipped cream, ice cream and chocolate sauce and cherries. And he wants me to make little chocolate decorations, too. (which thankfully is really easy. Just melt the chips and drizzle them in designs on wax paper and refrigerate) At least he is OK with bought chocolate sauce....this is actually an easy dessert night, LOL.. He is really picky. He has said "You just have set the bar too high in the past" - like the pre-two children and baby on the way-past. He used to be happy with just some chips and drinks and maybe some chocolate chip cookies, but then I started wanting to try new dessert recipes on them since it stinks to make an elaborate dessert, which I used to love doing, and not have anyone to eat it. So it has kind of evolved I guess into a big "what is your wife making for dessert for us tonight" deal according to DH.
Anyway, this is off topic but it feels good to vent.