Love_Monkey

I have a very good friend who is a great mom. She does spank and she does cio but I really do respect how connected and loving she is. She has said she could never imagine spanking her son at his age (20 months) and it has been 6 months since she has spanked her dd (5) so it is absolutely not a tool she uses often. I gave her your book to read and she said she agreed with 90% of it but 10% made her go, "Huh? What?!"

She marked it with stickys and honestly, knowing how good she is with her kids it's hard for me to know how to answer her questions. She wants to discuss it but I thought it would be good to get your perspective. She had six stickys so I figured we could take it one at a time. This might be a good discussion for others as well, otherwise I would have just pm'd you.

On page 46 you wrote: Too often I hear, "My child is doing______. Is this normal?" The truth is, yes, that is normal for that child. What each child does at any age is normal for that baby at that age. It's what God designed them to be able to do at that point.

My friend said: By her definition of normal, nothing is abnormal. This is dangerous - keeps our expectations of our children low. May prevent appropriate intervention - medical, educational, therapeutic, guidance and teaching.