mommylori

I am new and I am going to chime in here.lol I followed the pearls for a long time. One of the things you have to realize is they do seem like a very loving family and there children did turn out like very loving christains. She feels she is spanking them because she loves them, because in her mind if she doesn't spank them they will be awful and become awful adults. She spanks them because she wants them to be good and to love her. The Pearls talk alot about if you do not set up boudries for your children they will hate you. She also is probley looking at you like you have 1 child and that child is still very young you will learn, I have done that. If you truley want her to change and minister to her, show with your exampe let your famiy show her that spanking your children is not the only anser to raising God loving children. We all have the same out come in common as parents, we want to raise resposible adults that Love the Lord, just some take a diffrent path. It maynot be the correct path but we don't know that. If you show her by just being there and letting her see how you treat your child and how your child responds it will do wonders. If you try to talk with her before she is ready you both will become very diffesive and get nowhere. Being a mother is one of toughest jobs we have, and failure is not a option to us, we pour our hearts and souls into the journey so it is only natural to be very diffensive on the issue. But if you are around and you show that your child is well behaved adn loving towards you and show how you handle situations, by acting them out on your children in front of her when the situation calls on itself, she will take notice.