Sara

Well, I think *some* parents want to believe it doesn't hurt, but I wouldn't necessarily say this is true for the majority of spanking parents. I have heard so many people talk about how spankings that don't work aren't working because they aren't administered hard enough. You know, the whole line that if it isn't working, it must be because you aren't doing it hard enough or consistent enough. I think there is definitely a feeling among those who teach spanking that it needs to hurt in order to be effective. I've never heard or read that it isn't supposed to hurt. Just that it isn't supposed to leave marks.