Here's a blog post from someone who knew the parents and attended Lydia's funeral. I like the tone she takes and I thought you all might find it helpful in a way to read her perspective. She's just as bewildered as any of us--more so, I'm sure. But I appreciate her tone so much. She also posted in the comments thread on my blog post about it.
http://lauriemo.blogspot.com/2010/02...speakable.html