Re: Unreasonable expectations for CRAZY 6 year old?
It sounds like a fear response. The best way to ease the causes of fear response is to consistently parent without harshnes and with grace. If it were me, I would ignore the moving and laughing, as bringing attention and focus on it makes it worse. I would tell my kiddo what I needed them to know, have them repeat it back so I can be sure they heard, and move on. I am a huge fan of TBRI which is an attachment parenting trauma healing approach. One of the biggest points they make is leveling the correction to the behavior.
It takes years to re-establish trust. You are doing a great job by changing your parenting, but your kiddo needs to see that this is permanent. They need to feel safe and that they trust you. At this point, I think focusing on your own behavior is key. In time your kiddo’s fear response should diminish.
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Last edited by MudPies; 05-21-2018 at 08:09 AM.
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