Well I hope you don't think this is just a 'cop out' reply but I really really recommend Flylady - that woman is an Angel! Yeh, sometimes the emails get a bit much and no, I don't do everything they say but just listening to some of the helpful stuff she says helped to really change my mindset. I discovered her about 5/6 months ago and my home is much better now. Its not 'perfect' but that isn't the idea, its homely and welcoming enough that I can enjoy living in it and show hospitality to others (even unexpected company!)
My problem wasn't that I dodn't know how to clean (I grew up with a mother who cleaned all the light fittings every week
) I just could never understand how to get the whole house together at the same time. I don't know if this is you but I could spend all day cleaning one room and it would be absolutely spotless and I would feel great (but shattered) and just couldn't get round to doing the other rooms.
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Learning to be a much more gentle Mummy
to: DS 10 the young scientist
and DD 7 with chocolate button eyes
Blessed to be
Wife to DH since August 1999