[milkmommy]

My oldest is like this. Sadly she is also our homeschooling guinea pig....
What we found worked best...
1) smaller visual chunks of work. When she was younger I'd often choose materials because too me they were colorful and fun.. To her they were busy and overwhelming. I needed things that were simple in visual and not too cluttered. Like Saxon math had her in tears daily because it visually overwhelmed her. I could tell her she only had to do problems 1,3,and 5 she still would break down... She did way better with like MCP or even rod and staff.

2) more accountability. When younger I'd have her turn in assignments right away. SO like she was doing grammar and had to diagram 5 sentences she'd have to turn that in 30 minutes later (or whatever) work obviously avoided meant she'd not only have to do it again it also meant a removal of an allowed daily privilege such as media or personal gaming devices.

3) make sure nothing was causing the issues but then stay firm but flexible to their suggestions. We did all the tests and we do deal with some real areas. However taking those into consideration we are now fairly firm in our ways. I once spent soooo much time trying to make school fun to think outside the box etc... She'd act all yea for like a week them go right back to not bothering. In the end giving her manageable chunks of work with frequent accountability as well as clear consequences when not met. As well as patience and willingness to listen to her ideas when they do pop up seems to work best.
Its hard because my own ADD gets in the way.