Well, she is controlling her kids. If that makes her mad, she should stop.
Afa the school/autism thing, I am so with you. My 5 y/o has Asperger's. If I get ONE more "you should put him in Kindergarten" comment, I may truly lose my cool. My favorite was when I was told to put him in a special needs pre-school so he could learn how to socialize.
How is he going to learn how to socialize from other special needs kids????? He might learn their bad habits, but uh, NO THANK YOU.
Cannot wait to meet you.