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Mama Bird · 03-15-2010, 05:50 AM

Good question. We started following sort of a CIO approach with our first baby.

We didn't know any better. Very quickly we realized that this was totally going against our gut and we brought her to bed with us, but the fact is there that we started it. She's bipolar, and a rather anxious child.

I think that parenting is less about reading books and more about going with your gut. I've read a lot of books, but none of them can tell me how to gently parent my bipolar daughter. None of them can tell me how to stretch my parenting to use the same method for my spirited, gifted son and my silly, boundaries-testing toddler.

I think that because our children are all different, we must parent them differently, but in the same spirit. I'm constantly striving to be more gentle, more of a parent and less permissive. Constantly. I'm trusting God to lead me in how He wants me to parent these little Blessings that He has entrusted to us.

That, and GCM. I don't know what I'd do without the support of other mothers who are also gentle.

03-15-2010, 05:50 AM	#2
Mama Bird Rose Garden Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 8,893	Re: The problem with book disclaimers... Good question. We started following sort of a CIO approach with our first baby. We didn't know any better. Very quickly we realized that this was totally going against our gut and we brought her to bed with us, but the fact is there that we started it. She's bipolar, and a rather anxious child. I think that parenting is less about reading books and more about going with your gut. I've read a lot of books, but none of them can tell me how to gently parent my bipolar daughter. None of them can tell me how to stretch my parenting to use the same method for my spirited, gifted son and my silly, boundaries-testing toddler. I think that because our children are all different, we must parent them differently, but in the same spirit. I'm constantly striving to be more gentle, more of a parent and less permissive. Constantly. I'm trusting God to lead me in how He wants me to parent these little Blessings that He has entrusted to us. That, and GCM. I don't know what I'd do without the support of other mothers who are also gentle.

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