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Old 06-14-2007, 03:04 PM   #3
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Default Re: Collected Posts about "You Hit, You Sit" and General Posts about Hitting

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Title: Hitting by 23month ds
Post by: GCM Lover on March 24, 2005, 12:05:43 PM
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Well it has happened... ds hit me... out of anger. well he was frustrated I took away my modem equipment from him and he proceeded to do this jump in place thing while waving his arms like a drowning bird then stopped and wacked me. INTENTIONALLY and HARD.

So I said we don't hit... HE HIT ME AGAIN.

so i put him on the floor and walked away ... he had a fit but then a few seconds later (about 20) i came back and comforted him and explained that we don't hit..

NOW WHAT?


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Title: Re: Hitting by 23month ds
Post by: Quietspirit on March 25, 2005, 06:42:27 AM
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I would change your wording. "We" don't hit but obviously your little one is right now

Next time (and there will be due to his age), I would do what you did and say "OUCH. Hitting hurts." while removing him from you. He will throw a fit. You can reflect his feelings calmly "You are angry that Mommy won't let you play with the modem" and cuddle him. If he tries to hit again, say again "OUCH. Hitting hurts." and put him down again.

Be firm and don't allow him to hurt you.


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Title: Re: Hitting by 23month ds
Post by: ArmsOfLove on March 25, 2005, 11:03:12 AM
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I usually say, "I will not allow you to hurt me." And if I can't stop him (by grabbing his hand mid-swing) then I will set him down and walk away while telling him that I will be around him when he can treat me kindly. I've told my children I will not allow them to abuse me; that our house rule is no hurting with bodies or words and that hitting hurts me with his body; and actively taught what TO do--you may be angry; you may not hit. Teach anger dances, sign language for "angry", draw angry pictures, reflect feelings, deal with the whole child
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