Reading up in the Gentle Discipline forum is extremely helpful.
For me personally, it helps to pretend that the word "spanking" isn't even in the dictionary. That forces me to get off my butt, redirect, make it happen, reset, or do whatever else I need to do to fix the situation.
Spanking may cure the symptoms, but it doesn't cure the disease. A spanking will teach your child what
not to do, but that's only half of the problem. You've forgotten to teach them what
to do.