[sweetpeasmommy]

You are going to have to rethink everything. For example

My brother could care less about a spank, but to put him alone in his bedroom for a few minutes was torture!! So I do know that different things work for different children.

I wouldn't call that "working". Finding the thing that would most upset him probably didn't help him learn anything from the experience. Since discipline is about TEACHING not punishing, you teach your child how TO act keeping in mind what is normal for their developmental stage. You won't be able to teach a 3yo how to be logical since their brain hasn't acquired that ability yet. There's a reason they don't come out 3 yo yk?

I suspect as you grow as a parent alongside your child you may find that how your parents parented didn't "work" as well as you thought. I used to think no harm was done by being spanked as a child. Until

I spanked my child for the first and last time and found myself filled with rage. I realized that I was never taught to actually deal with my emotions. I realized that I could actually hurt this child that I loved because it certainly wasn't teaching him a thing other than to fear me. I realized that there HAD to be a better way and I needed to find it.

I had a lot of growing and reparenting myself to do to grow into the parent I was meant to be. There is a lot of support here for others on that same journey.