[Marzipan]

If you're interested in behaviour training, sure, spanking can work. If you're wanting to disciple your children, spanking is counter productive. (I'll bbl to add more.) eta: so I'm late enough that probably someone else has said everything I would have said. My husband said the same thing as you "I needed those spankings" or "I deserved them." And I was pretty pro spanking too. In fact, after I joined this forum (EIGHT years ago, yikes!), I remember praying specifically for discernement before I ventured in to the GD forum, because I was afraid of being brainwashed in to not spanking my kids. Turns out the more I read, the more it made sense, for me and for dh. Discipling someone requires a close and trusting relationship, and IME as a child, a spanking never fostered trust between my parents and me. They were (still are) fantastic parents, but it is because of all the things they did in the million moments they weren't spanking, not becaues of the spanking.