Re: Teach kids to stop asking questions?
Thanks for all of the comments. I'm not saying that where I'm at right now is a good place, I'm saying I'm trying to do something to change it.
I know there are other things going on too, and I'm also addressing them. I (unhealthily) deal with stress by closing in on myself and pushing others away, and the last 6 months have been very stressful with our move and DH traveling a lot.
I'm also realizing that I'm not as much of an introvert as I thought (I've for a long time thought I was 50/50 I/E), I'm just a relationally starved extrovert. Taking a new favorite quote from a recent thread there, we were made to connect deeply with people whose butts we haven't wiped, and I'm still working on that. Though it's 500% more possible here in our new home and church than it was in our previous one, so the prognosis looks good for that.
Thanks to those of you who acknowledged that the questions are normal and hard for you as well. I like a lot of your tips and will be using them.
I still think for my oldest that she really doesn't know it, but what she wants is to learn conversation skills. She just wants to talk with me but doesn't know how to do that except 20 questions style. I've been looking for a kids' book about it to try to help her (she loves to read and loves books like that), but haven't found anything perfect yet. If you know of anything, I'd love recommendations. I know that I need to initiate conversations with them as well, to model good conversation skills, to connect with her, and to head off the 20 questions. I'm getting there and trying, I really am.
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