[ArmsOfLove]

Originally Posted by iwillhope

wow! is this really true? ok...this is in response to something I need to quote. hang on...still learning here.

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wow! is this really true? does this happen like this?

I'm honestly just speculating . . . but I know that Stockholm Syndrome causes people to love and rely on the people who are holding them captive. And torture results in strange connections. I honestly equate the parenting that Pearl advocates to extreme torture--the people you are looking to for your very survival are hitting you if you roll this way or say that, they are calling you names, denying you food, forcing you to eat food, demanding you do this, setting you up to fail at that . . . at some point it becomes unsafe to make any thought/choice of your own. It becomes a matter of survival to learn how to think exactly the way your captor wants you to think. And when this is done BEFORE the child has the ability to think for themselves, I do believe it would be able to prevent them thinking for themselves, though I would hope that other than extreme situations the child could eventually develop those skills if given the opportunity! But that would require healing, therapy, and desiring to live a different life than the people who controlled your youth would allow. I've seen that happen, but it takes an incredible amount of determination and willpower and I think it is more likely with certain personalities than others.