ETLDTD - week 4, Thursday-Sunday
 

From Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline

Week Four
ATTITUDE SHIFT: Harnessing the Power of Unity
REASON: To focus on connecting instead of trying to be special
DISCIPLINE SKILL: Encouragement
VALUE: Interdependence

*Practice changing your self defeating statements into encouraging ones. Tell yourself at least 3 times a day " I can handle this. I am good enough"

Encouragement: Honoring your children so they can honor you

I have misplaced my book in our unpacking from vacation... i got the top note from the old thread, but she didin't put the notes regarding encouragement in her posts... could someone please post these for me (the first 2 were on the first thread for this week). thanks! i'll search for my book over the weekend.

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Sorry I just saw this Jennifer....I had sick kids for the last week so not been on much


Encouragement: Honouring your children so they can honour you

*Every time your children chooses to obey you, celebrate their choice with encouragement. To offer encouragement, do the following:

1) Start your sentence with your childs name or one of the following phrases: "Look at you", or "You did it!"
2) Describe exactly what you see (or noticed)
3) Add a tag, if desired. Use one of the following: "That was helpful", "Good job", "Good for you"

*Encourage your child every time you see her using the following behaviours: kindness, caring, turn-taking, sharing, cooperation, honesty, staying on task, and any other behaviour you value. Do this by describing, not judging. For example: "You held the door open for your mother. That was helpful", or "You worked on your project for two hours. That took determination"

*Chronic behaviour problems indicate a significant relationship has been injured

For chronic problems, spend additional time with your child to strengthen the relationship - cooperation will follow. As children learn that they contribute to the well-being of others and that they can count on each other to be helpful and caring, interdependence is fostered. They learn it is better to give than to get.

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This I find I struggle with. Its a mindset I am trying to change but its a slow process. I find now before I say anything I try to stop for 3 secs and think what I want to say before actually saying it. I know the kids may not hear the difference but its there.

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I just wanted to say that I am still here with you guys. I don't have a book at the moment but amfinding it helpful the way it is presented in these threads. We will be spending lots of time together this week at home. This is a change & I'll get lots of chances to practice, I'm sure.

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Michelle....am glad you are still with us and enjoying this journey with us :tu

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thank you alysia.
glad you're still with us michelle.

i still haven't put my hands on my book. (i'm wondering if i left it at in-law's, but don't think i did. dh and i usually do a good job checking for straggling objects.

i will post from the original, but if somebody could add the discipline skill points that would be great! i think probably one thread for the week should be okay... posting is down, so no need to have empty threads! is this okay with your alysia? anyone else?

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One post a week makes sense to me. Much easier to keep track of. S

So far so good, today, but dd got lots of new stuff yesterday so they are happy to play together.

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No probs....Will go do i t now