Salon Article on Pearls
Salon.com has published its article about the Pearls . . . apologies if this has been linked elsewhere on GCM today (feel free to move)
Spare the quarter-inch plumbing supply line, spoil the child http://www. salon.com/mwt/feature/2006/05/25/the_pearls/index_np.html Edited to add: I just made my way through it to see that they quoted Jeri and linked to GCM!! Wow!! |
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OH BUMMER! You have to pay to read the article?
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there's a visa logo you can click on to read the whole thing free :)
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It's chilling to read people's responses.
So many people with similar horror story childhoods. So many people who are closed to the Gospel because they were beaten in the name of Jesus. Debra Baker |
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great job Meggan and Jeri :tu :hug |
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:highfive :tu Another good article, with good links, so readers unfamiliar with these methods can see that there are places that actually sell these "implements." :cry2
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I remember my cousin holding her Ds, who was under 8 months old at the time, and trying to get him to sleep(though he wasn't tired, she just didn't want us playing w/him b/c she didn't/doesn't like us) and she was holding him towards her telling him "get on your knees' over and over and when he wouldn't bend his knees, she smacked his legs really hard. Didn't work. Just made him mad instead. So then she grabbed his legs and bent his knees herself, which I'm sure wasn't good for his little bitty knees.. I felt so bad for the poor guy.. I was ready to smack HER for it and see how she liked it! Quote:
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OH, I wasn't saing anything bad about HER!!! I was just commenting ont he Pearl method... I'm glad to hear she has been 'reformed'. :)
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Thanks for the link. :popcorn
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I think we have quite a few moms here who were negatively effected by the parenting gurus that prey upon the good intentions of young parents.
It's amazing to me to read some of their stories. Thanks for the reminder. |
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Wow, when you read the article on the Pearls and then click on the blog Doc's Sunrise Rants we Christians really have a bad reputation. Kinda scary, makes trying to witness about the love of Christ so much harder when people view us as lunatics who abuse children. Where do these people come off saying that they are training their children the way God trains us?
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I thought what Jeri said was beautiful. . .
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(This is from page four of the Salon.Com article. . .) |
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jeri, your words were beautiful!
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Meggan your story is powerful as well and it echos my experience. :hug It's comforting to know that I'm not the only one who has been through this. I've also found that through telling my story that it brings some mom's to start asking questions and evaluating their parenting style and hopefully when they are ready they can find a more gracious and gentle way to deal with their children as we have. :hug
Praying that this report will stir more discussions and bring many mom's to evaluate and to search the scriptures for the way God would have them raise their children and not a man who claims to know what God wants parents to do. :pray |
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I agree Danette, and I also think that some moms have these same feelings, but go back to the book or talk to others and just thing "gee, if I just keep it up, he promises peace in my home" and always think they are alone in those feelings. Hearing or reading that someone else had those feelings and were able to get out of it, might really help some closet struggling moms.
I remember when a lady called me on the phone and was just telling me in such a nice calm, non judging way her Ezzo experience and "if you feel its not working for you, dont feel guilty" sort of thing... wow that meant so much to me that someone else struggled with it, instead of the rosy perfect picturesque families that you see everywhere. anyway, I just wanted to say, Meggan, that your story reminded me of that and I think that there are moms out there that will really benefit from your story, I know it took a lot of courage :hug |
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Rebekah's testimony of her upbring was really interesting, and especially how they are raising their own children. If what she describes is true, then her own parents were not 100% consistent in their methods, instead they were really creative, and she said she and her dh use 90% of the times more creative means. Hmmm, sounds like she was actually raised in a positive parenting home that occasionally used spankings, and uses positive parenting herself. If the Pearl's didn't use it themselves, but instead used very creative positive means to raise their kids, they why did they not write a book about that? I'd sure like to read some creative and humourus responses to our kids behaviour :grin . Instead it seems they wrote a book advocating 100% compliance to a single method. And she thinks that only those who were traumatised are opposed to their method? By her own words, she and her Dh are in reality opposed to them; and she is a self proclaimed balanced happily adjusted person. I'm sure she is, but my point is, that the extended Pearl family do not seem to see what people really have a problem with, because their own happy childhood is blinding them to what TTUAC actually teaches.
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Ok... I'm off to go hug and kiss on my kids... I'll let you know how many times they roll their eyes. :lol |
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Yep, my own sister told me that I wasn't spanking DS hard enough. I told her one day about ds doing something and she said "welll, spank him". I said "I did, it didn't do any good". She said "well, then you didn't spank him hard enough".. What????? Good Grief.. She's really gonna flip next month when she discovers I no longer spank AT ALL... And, no, she isn't a Pearl follower...
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185 letters later....
I've come away from the letters section a bit shell-shocked. It's sad to me that it's such a divisive issue. I, too, love what Jeri had to say. After years of striving toward gentle parenting and going through "anti-whoever" phases, I've come to a peace over my parenting. I don't need to bash anyone else in order to be a good parent. I think that Pearl followers are not evil people, just perhaps misled. It was hard reading all of those Christian bashing letters. It was hard to see over and over again the spanked child vs. the wild child, as if those are the only two options. Why is it that Americans still believe that spanking is the only means of enforcing a boundary? My issue with the Pearls is not necessarily their child training ways, but their skewed theology which places fathers/Michael Pearl in a god-like status, who is able to train the sin out of his children. :hug Meggan. I am so proud of you. You have been so brave to come forward with these two articles. I love you, sister! |
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And I find this disturbing. I do believe we can trust God, even when we don't understand. But following a "command" based on weak translation of one section of Scripture, when it is at odds with the rest of God's special revelation and at odds with what we see in God's creation? Very disturbing. |
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