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read part of the article. Gross! And what the heck is "Selfish Love"?
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Thank you Elizabeth!
I am very grateful to have found this forum! It has been extremely helpful and encouraging. ---------- Post added at 03:28 PM ---------- Previous post was at 03:10 PM ---------- Quote:
And not just her quote makes me sick, but also the fact that I was in her home once and saw first hand what she did. I will spare the details, but I grabbed my son and left ASAP. I still regret not calling CPS. I can't get over it, but I have been compelled to get involved in getting the word out about what people are doing in the name of Jesus. In that booklet one of the most disturbing events mentioned was getting a baby/toddler up in the middle of the night to spank/beat him because they forgot that he was naughty the day before and didn't obey God by disciplining him. And the booklet taught that children should be spanked every time they forget something too. :hunh:mad:sick |
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I suppose I shouldn't be so surprised when this model of punitive parenting is pushed so often in churches. When I think about it, the good behavior=reward, bad behavior=punishment thing is so foundational to being human. It's a hard concept to give up, because it's something by which we can measure ourselves. |
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I also go to a church named Grace Baptist Church that is reformed baptist (and yes, the woman that posted the link goes to a reformed baptist church, too, as do all of our mutual friends *sigh*) and it just frustrates me to no end when I hear all about grace, grace, grace, but when we talk about our children? Well, no mercy can be shown because "God commands us to use the rod." :( |
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I think it's also a bit of a survival mechanism - to prove that I'm better than the next guy so that I can claw my way to the top to get the prize - survival of the fittest and all.
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A few years ago, I had to stand up to the (pretty new) assistant pastor at my church who was considering allowing SACH to be studied in the parenting class (he wasn't an advocate of it, but someone else who was wanted it to be studied). One point I made was that our parenting study was called 'Grace at Home,' and I didn't see how SACH could possibly be studied then as it shows children no grace. His response..."well, that's just the title of the study..." (implication, we don't really mean it...) :no
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Surprisingly, Dobson *does* mention this book in one of his books (The Strong Willed Child or Dare to Discipline I believe) and uses the example mentioned above about waking the child in the middle of the night. Dobson was very negative on this book and adamant that these authors were way over the top. This is what convinced *me* to not get this book when offered it by a church member I respected a few years later. Thank goodness!
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I just don't comprehend her logic at all- my kids and I forget stuff all the time- that's just being human! Crazy!:scratch |
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I've read that before -- and I was so mad I was spitting nails afterward. :mad
The author also very clearly states that Proverbs 22:6 is a promise.:no2 |
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We had been excited to visit a particular church, and went out of our way on our vacation to be able to do so. When I walked into the sanctuary I had a sense of heaviness, though. The men were hale and hearty, but the women and children...were depressed and oppressed.
Children sat in service very quietly but when a toddler near us began to fuss the tiniest bit, her fuss turned to a sound of quiet fear as her father carried her out of the sanctuary. My heart sank and my stomach turned. As we left I saw that pamphlet on a table in the foyer and knew that my instincts about what was going on in that room were correct. |
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:jawdropI can not even believe this happens.......I swatted my daughters hand and sobbed right along with her, I apologized, but I still felt like such a failure:( I can not even fathom how people can think that this is what God wants. How could that even come to mind.....Do these mothers get beat by their husbands too???
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