KarenBoo
12-25-2011, 08:24 AM
I am just so mad right now!!! And it's Christmas morning!!!
We gave roller blades to Kitten (8.5) and she was taking them out for a test spin around the living room. BUT, she has pneumonia (is recovering on antibiotics) PLUS she's never roller bladed before. So DH helped her around the living room twice. She's extremely unbalanced, as one would expect. She can't keep her feet under her *at all.*
We had originally told her no roller blading *at all* today because of the pneumonia, but changed our minds and let her have a couple laps around the living room with DH holding her. When she went into a coughing fit, I told her that was enough. She was sitting down in the chair and she said "I want to try a lap by myself." (note, no helmet, pads, etc. were on her)
I said "no." and she started protesting, so I looked at her and I said "no, no, and no again! absolutely not!" and she started to stand up like she was going to go anyway!!!:mad I was right next to her at that point and I put my hand on her to stop her and she sat back down, and I was just instantly furious of course.
It wasn't exactly a "feather that broke the camel's back" because that was a very big "ignore" right there, but I just got so furious instantly because I've been dealing with it so much lately. Let me say that she is such a "good girl!" She is basically easy-going and quite mature for her age. And maybe it's her maturity that makes her think she can just ignore me and go with her own thoughts and wishes. But it *drives me crazy!!!"
Yesterday, she brought in a hoola hoop and wanted to show me a trick. I said "not in the house, I'll go outside and watch you." She just slipped that hoola hoop on her ankle anyway and didn't stop until I yelled at her.
I have many more examples, and it's infuriating!!
Today, in my anger, I said to her: "If I raised you as a spanked child, I bet you would listen to me!" :doh:bag
Then I said I was taking a time out and stormed off into this room to type.
I just don't know how to get through to her about this issue, and it happens so much. I'm yelling at her a lot these days. I hate that so much! I don't want to yell, but it seems to be the only thing that will make her stop and "hear" me. And I feel so bad because I feel like I'm yelling at her so much and she's such a sweet girl and I feel is not really doing this on purpose to drive me crazy, it's like she just doesn't care or something.
She'll say "I'm not trying to ignore you." and I say "well, you need to *try* to actually listen to me!" She seems genuinely contrite each time, but the issue is not getting better, and it may be getting worse!
Help! Thanks!
We gave roller blades to Kitten (8.5) and she was taking them out for a test spin around the living room. BUT, she has pneumonia (is recovering on antibiotics) PLUS she's never roller bladed before. So DH helped her around the living room twice. She's extremely unbalanced, as one would expect. She can't keep her feet under her *at all.*
We had originally told her no roller blading *at all* today because of the pneumonia, but changed our minds and let her have a couple laps around the living room with DH holding her. When she went into a coughing fit, I told her that was enough. She was sitting down in the chair and she said "I want to try a lap by myself." (note, no helmet, pads, etc. were on her)
I said "no." and she started protesting, so I looked at her and I said "no, no, and no again! absolutely not!" and she started to stand up like she was going to go anyway!!!:mad I was right next to her at that point and I put my hand on her to stop her and she sat back down, and I was just instantly furious of course.
It wasn't exactly a "feather that broke the camel's back" because that was a very big "ignore" right there, but I just got so furious instantly because I've been dealing with it so much lately. Let me say that she is such a "good girl!" She is basically easy-going and quite mature for her age. And maybe it's her maturity that makes her think she can just ignore me and go with her own thoughts and wishes. But it *drives me crazy!!!"
Yesterday, she brought in a hoola hoop and wanted to show me a trick. I said "not in the house, I'll go outside and watch you." She just slipped that hoola hoop on her ankle anyway and didn't stop until I yelled at her.
I have many more examples, and it's infuriating!!
Today, in my anger, I said to her: "If I raised you as a spanked child, I bet you would listen to me!" :doh:bag
Then I said I was taking a time out and stormed off into this room to type.
I just don't know how to get through to her about this issue, and it happens so much. I'm yelling at her a lot these days. I hate that so much! I don't want to yell, but it seems to be the only thing that will make her stop and "hear" me. And I feel so bad because I feel like I'm yelling at her so much and she's such a sweet girl and I feel is not really doing this on purpose to drive me crazy, it's like she just doesn't care or something.
She'll say "I'm not trying to ignore you." and I say "well, you need to *try* to actually listen to me!" She seems genuinely contrite each time, but the issue is not getting better, and it may be getting worse!
Help! Thanks!