Elibellamiah
11-28-2011, 04:10 PM
I don't know if this is right forum. Sorry if this is strange for a first post but it is just something that is on my mind when thinking about parenting and discipline.
So a while back, maybe a couple months ago, I took my kids to the zoo. It was completely unplanned. While we were there we ran into 2 families from church. We had a great time until the end. We stopped for ice cream at the end of the day and my daughter completely lost it over a straw. I got a drink with a twisty straw and she wanted it for her ice cream. I told her she could have the straw later but I needed it for my drink. She went into a full tantrum. I would have just left but for some reason a nose bleed came along with this tantrum and blood started gushing out of her nose everytime she screamed. So I was stuck trying to calm her down and get the nose bleed under control. The other mothers started asking me if I spank her for her tantrums. Spanking is taught and expected in our church. It's not that I never spanked I just avoided it because I didn't feel right about it. So they started talking to me about spanking. During all of this conversation one of the mothers turned to my 3 year old daughter and told her that her job was to obey me and that she was making God very angry at her. I didn't react to this at the moment, I take a lot of time to think things through, but now I'm very upset that she said this to my daughter. I have no idea how it may have affected her and her beliefs about God. I know I recently heard my 6 year old son tell her God was mad at her. I don't know why he said that. I think I need to talk to them about this, but I don't know how to bring it up and I really don't know what the truth is. I know God is merciful and I don't think He's really up there angry at us all the time for our sin. I certainly don't think He's angry at tired overwhelmed 3 year olds who lose control and throw fits. I'm not sure how to support this with the Bible though.
So a while back, maybe a couple months ago, I took my kids to the zoo. It was completely unplanned. While we were there we ran into 2 families from church. We had a great time until the end. We stopped for ice cream at the end of the day and my daughter completely lost it over a straw. I got a drink with a twisty straw and she wanted it for her ice cream. I told her she could have the straw later but I needed it for my drink. She went into a full tantrum. I would have just left but for some reason a nose bleed came along with this tantrum and blood started gushing out of her nose everytime she screamed. So I was stuck trying to calm her down and get the nose bleed under control. The other mothers started asking me if I spank her for her tantrums. Spanking is taught and expected in our church. It's not that I never spanked I just avoided it because I didn't feel right about it. So they started talking to me about spanking. During all of this conversation one of the mothers turned to my 3 year old daughter and told her that her job was to obey me and that she was making God very angry at her. I didn't react to this at the moment, I take a lot of time to think things through, but now I'm very upset that she said this to my daughter. I have no idea how it may have affected her and her beliefs about God. I know I recently heard my 6 year old son tell her God was mad at her. I don't know why he said that. I think I need to talk to them about this, but I don't know how to bring it up and I really don't know what the truth is. I know God is merciful and I don't think He's really up there angry at us all the time for our sin. I certainly don't think He's angry at tired overwhelmed 3 year olds who lose control and throw fits. I'm not sure how to support this with the Bible though.