Myrtle
10-31-2011, 10:34 AM
So, I got into a bad cycle of reactive parenting during my last trimester and the recovery period post-partum. I'm trying to break that cycle now, but I've found myself bumfuzzled more than once lately.
I know about training ahead of time and teaching *before* the situation occurs, but my kids are giving me things I don't know how to prepare for b/c I'd never have thought of this stuff in the first place.
Like dd2 rubbing her morning snack on the woodwork. Why? Why would someone do that? We have the "food stays at the table rule," so I can take her back to that, but really? What is she doing rubbing her food on the woodwork?
And then there's ds1. What should I have done ahead of time to teach him *NOT* to come out of the bathroom at the Indian restaurant with his pants around his feet to ask for help getting his jacket off, so he could use the bathroom? He just opened the door, and there he was in all his glory yelling for me to get his jacket off. *sigh*
I know I can't prepare for every situation, but I feel like most of parenting is reactive right now. Is it the age? Am I just that out of it? What am I doing wrong here? These are just examples, but stuff like that happens on a daily basis, several several several times a day. I feel like I need to keep all children within arms reach at all times just to be sure no one is moving the furniture (yes, ds1 is 5 and moved the recliner to make a "door" behind the couch) or swinging from the curtains b/c they make a great vine (except when the rod bends and the whole shebang falls apart).
Please help!!!
I know about training ahead of time and teaching *before* the situation occurs, but my kids are giving me things I don't know how to prepare for b/c I'd never have thought of this stuff in the first place.
Like dd2 rubbing her morning snack on the woodwork. Why? Why would someone do that? We have the "food stays at the table rule," so I can take her back to that, but really? What is she doing rubbing her food on the woodwork?
And then there's ds1. What should I have done ahead of time to teach him *NOT* to come out of the bathroom at the Indian restaurant with his pants around his feet to ask for help getting his jacket off, so he could use the bathroom? He just opened the door, and there he was in all his glory yelling for me to get his jacket off. *sigh*
I know I can't prepare for every situation, but I feel like most of parenting is reactive right now. Is it the age? Am I just that out of it? What am I doing wrong here? These are just examples, but stuff like that happens on a daily basis, several several several times a day. I feel like I need to keep all children within arms reach at all times just to be sure no one is moving the furniture (yes, ds1 is 5 and moved the recliner to make a "door" behind the couch) or swinging from the curtains b/c they make a great vine (except when the rod bends and the whole shebang falls apart).
Please help!!!