Mum2Es
10-10-2011, 04:56 AM
Scenario:
Chicken (3) is pestering Princess (6.5) who is trying to read a book and doesn't want to play (I'm cooking dinner so don't intervene as soon as I otherwise probably would have). Chicken perserveres until Princess snaps and SCREAMS at her, in a hysterical tone, something unintelligible but very angry. Princess then runs into another room and SLAMS the door shut. I comfort Chicken and leave Princess to cool down. After 5 minutes or so, Princess comes out, gives me a hug and apologises, and says she shouldn't have done that because it hurt her throat, then, without me prompting her, goes to Chicken with a hug and apology. :heart
I am :rockon that Princess knows she needs to put herself in a secluded spot and calm down, and that when she is calm she comes out and apologises and makes amends to the wounded party.
But I feel like there is something I should be saying. Maybe remind her that she should ask me to help her by removing Chicken earlier, before she loses her temper? Or tell me she is getting angry so I can help her remove herself calmly? Something. What do you think? It just didn't feel right to just hug her back and go on with making dinner, without a conversation about what had happened.
Chicken (3) is pestering Princess (6.5) who is trying to read a book and doesn't want to play (I'm cooking dinner so don't intervene as soon as I otherwise probably would have). Chicken perserveres until Princess snaps and SCREAMS at her, in a hysterical tone, something unintelligible but very angry. Princess then runs into another room and SLAMS the door shut. I comfort Chicken and leave Princess to cool down. After 5 minutes or so, Princess comes out, gives me a hug and apologises, and says she shouldn't have done that because it hurt her throat, then, without me prompting her, goes to Chicken with a hug and apology. :heart
I am :rockon that Princess knows she needs to put herself in a secluded spot and calm down, and that when she is calm she comes out and apologises and makes amends to the wounded party.
But I feel like there is something I should be saying. Maybe remind her that she should ask me to help her by removing Chicken earlier, before she loses her temper? Or tell me she is getting angry so I can help her remove herself calmly? Something. What do you think? It just didn't feel right to just hug her back and go on with making dinner, without a conversation about what had happened.