Amythestmama
03-14-2011, 05:13 PM
Help!
Ds1, 4.5 is making me feel crazy.:O
Example 1: We're sitting down to eat a meal. He rarely eats veggies, never eats fruit. So I have a rule that he has to eat 4 bites of whatever veggie is on the table (like 4 green beans). Now he's eaten beans for several months now with this rule, but for whatever reason, he decides he doesn't want to eat the beans. So he sits there and hollers in this loud whiny voice "I don't like beans! I won't eat them! I won't eat them! Ahhh! EEE! I hate beans! You can't make me eat them!" on and on and on.... Makes me insane! If I say, "You may not leave the table until you eat the beans" he bawls and continues this whiny diatribe until its time to leave to go to school and then says he's eaten the beans and we go. More often than not, I find that he's simply moved the beans onto someone else's plate or thrown them away. (He tell me later, laughing about it)
Example 2: We went into a small store to get a gift item. Everything is way too pricy for me and when he asks for candy, I say no. Ds2(3.5) says ok and just stands there. Ds1 jumps around squealing and whining *loudly* that he wants candy and why won't I buy him candy and I never buy him candy and on and on and on. I repeat myself 2 times when he's yanking on my clothes yelling that he wants candy. I ask him to stand quietly and wait until I can pay or sit on the chairs and wait quietly. No, he keeps up this whiny diatribe until we're walking out the door. Now, I was going to buy them each a 60 cent chocolate at the register. But I hadn't said that I would, and the fuss made me decide not to buy the candy.
Now these things happen frequently. Like asking to go out to eat. I don't like to do that very often b/c #1, dh doesn't approve, #2 its expensive! #3 its not the best thing to eat. But ds wails and carries on like there's no tomorrow when I say no.
So, I am at my wits end here. I know what dh will say, He'll launch into this lecture about how stupid and naughty it is to act that way, how that's being a pig. He'll tell me to spank ds. I'm trying to figure out what ds is really saying here, what he really wants/needs and those things aren't the answer. So please help!
Ds1, 4.5 is making me feel crazy.:O
Example 1: We're sitting down to eat a meal. He rarely eats veggies, never eats fruit. So I have a rule that he has to eat 4 bites of whatever veggie is on the table (like 4 green beans). Now he's eaten beans for several months now with this rule, but for whatever reason, he decides he doesn't want to eat the beans. So he sits there and hollers in this loud whiny voice "I don't like beans! I won't eat them! I won't eat them! Ahhh! EEE! I hate beans! You can't make me eat them!" on and on and on.... Makes me insane! If I say, "You may not leave the table until you eat the beans" he bawls and continues this whiny diatribe until its time to leave to go to school and then says he's eaten the beans and we go. More often than not, I find that he's simply moved the beans onto someone else's plate or thrown them away. (He tell me later, laughing about it)
Example 2: We went into a small store to get a gift item. Everything is way too pricy for me and when he asks for candy, I say no. Ds2(3.5) says ok and just stands there. Ds1 jumps around squealing and whining *loudly* that he wants candy and why won't I buy him candy and I never buy him candy and on and on and on. I repeat myself 2 times when he's yanking on my clothes yelling that he wants candy. I ask him to stand quietly and wait until I can pay or sit on the chairs and wait quietly. No, he keeps up this whiny diatribe until we're walking out the door. Now, I was going to buy them each a 60 cent chocolate at the register. But I hadn't said that I would, and the fuss made me decide not to buy the candy.
Now these things happen frequently. Like asking to go out to eat. I don't like to do that very often b/c #1, dh doesn't approve, #2 its expensive! #3 its not the best thing to eat. But ds wails and carries on like there's no tomorrow when I say no.
So, I am at my wits end here. I know what dh will say, He'll launch into this lecture about how stupid and naughty it is to act that way, how that's being a pig. He'll tell me to spank ds. I'm trying to figure out what ds is really saying here, what he really wants/needs and those things aren't the answer. So please help!