CrazyChick
03-04-2011, 02:14 PM
I have a 5.5 yr old L, and a 2.5 yr old A, - both boys. There are lots of sibling issues - starting off when A was younger with L hitting and hurting him at any opportunity - even when A was in my arms, (i have never been able to leave them alone together even for a few minutes) and which has progressed into almost constant fighting and bickering.
We have never enforced sharing as part of the attempt to help L not resent A. Obviously L was around for 3 years before A came along so a huge proportion of the enormous amount of toys we have in the house where origionally bought for L. We have put a lock on L's door so he can lock toys he doesnt want A to have access to, in his room. However, L's room is jam packed - literally all over the floor toys piled up - its impossible to get to the window to open shut the curtains without standing on the toys and i am 37wks preg so its also rather dangerous for me and will probably be even more so once i'm slinging a newborn about aswell.
We also have a playroom packed with toys that belong to both boys individually, but that on the whole they dont mind sharing - however, L will often randomly decide that a toy A is playing with is his and he doesnt want to share it anymore and will lay claim to it and carry it off to his room despite the fact that A has played with on many occassions before.
Me and dh feel that the situation is getting rather ridiculous but i'm not sure what approach to take to change things - dh just wants L to have a few extra special toys in his room and declare all other toys sharing toys - i see the appeal hugely, but i'm not sure that that is the right thing to do and wanted to check here first to see what others do or would do so i have different options to choose from cos i know dhs option would cause WW3 around here.
We have never enforced sharing as part of the attempt to help L not resent A. Obviously L was around for 3 years before A came along so a huge proportion of the enormous amount of toys we have in the house where origionally bought for L. We have put a lock on L's door so he can lock toys he doesnt want A to have access to, in his room. However, L's room is jam packed - literally all over the floor toys piled up - its impossible to get to the window to open shut the curtains without standing on the toys and i am 37wks preg so its also rather dangerous for me and will probably be even more so once i'm slinging a newborn about aswell.
We also have a playroom packed with toys that belong to both boys individually, but that on the whole they dont mind sharing - however, L will often randomly decide that a toy A is playing with is his and he doesnt want to share it anymore and will lay claim to it and carry it off to his room despite the fact that A has played with on many occassions before.
Me and dh feel that the situation is getting rather ridiculous but i'm not sure what approach to take to change things - dh just wants L to have a few extra special toys in his room and declare all other toys sharing toys - i see the appeal hugely, but i'm not sure that that is the right thing to do and wanted to check here first to see what others do or would do so i have different options to choose from cos i know dhs option would cause WW3 around here.