houseforjoy
01-19-2011, 01:56 PM
dd will be 2 next month. she has been having these major meltdown "tantrums" for instance we are trying to get her to go to bed earlier. she normally stays up till i go to bed (10:30 / 11:00) and then doesn't wake till 10 the next morning. I want her to go to bed earlier so that when i want to go to bed early i can, and so that i can get stuff done after the kids go to bed. we co sleep but i would like to transition her at some soonish point to the sibling bed.
anyway.... i started bedtime at 9:30 last night. she was all willing at first to come up, she nursed and was quiet but then she got down and wanted to go downstairs. she got out of bed and said stairs, but i said it is night night now mommy is going night night. she then went to the stairs and realized the door was closed and then got mad and started crying/screaming. she came back in and kept yelling out stairs and throwing herself on the floor kicking and hitting the floor. i tried calmly telling her it was night night time and she could come uppy by mommy. after awhile she started screaming "night night couch" which is where we sit for nap time to nurse till she falls asleep and then i put her in bed. i said no night night in bed, after ahwhile though she started waking up the other kids so i picked her up and walked around the kitchen and after awhile she nicely said "night night couch" so i sat on the couch with her until she fell asleep and then tried taking her into bed at which point she woke up and began screaming and crying again. dh tried taking her for awhile, but finally ds came in and said he couldn't sleep and since it was already after 10:30 i picked her up and walked her in the kitchen till she was asleep and then was able to go into our bed without her waking up.
i never know what to do while she is tantruming though. i get really frustrated and it is hard to say nice calming things to her that seemingly have no impact, so sometimes i think if i just ignore her while she is tantruming that would be better but i don't like not acknowledging that i know she is upset either.
help
anyway.... i started bedtime at 9:30 last night. she was all willing at first to come up, she nursed and was quiet but then she got down and wanted to go downstairs. she got out of bed and said stairs, but i said it is night night now mommy is going night night. she then went to the stairs and realized the door was closed and then got mad and started crying/screaming. she came back in and kept yelling out stairs and throwing herself on the floor kicking and hitting the floor. i tried calmly telling her it was night night time and she could come uppy by mommy. after awhile she started screaming "night night couch" which is where we sit for nap time to nurse till she falls asleep and then i put her in bed. i said no night night in bed, after ahwhile though she started waking up the other kids so i picked her up and walked around the kitchen and after awhile she nicely said "night night couch" so i sat on the couch with her until she fell asleep and then tried taking her into bed at which point she woke up and began screaming and crying again. dh tried taking her for awhile, but finally ds came in and said he couldn't sleep and since it was already after 10:30 i picked her up and walked her in the kitchen till she was asleep and then was able to go into our bed without her waking up.
i never know what to do while she is tantruming though. i get really frustrated and it is hard to say nice calming things to her that seemingly have no impact, so sometimes i think if i just ignore her while she is tantruming that would be better but i don't like not acknowledging that i know she is upset either.
help