ShiriChayim
09-08-2007, 12:28 PM
Ok, I'll say it, I am so tired of the expectations people place on children. It starts as infants, if I one more person asks me if my child is a "good baby" I'm going to scream! And basically, what they are asking is, does your child have few basic needs, and is he willing to let them be met on your schedule? Since when is having a baby supposed to easy or for the parents?
Then immediately a toddler must be trained. There is no learning curve, no leeway given, if a small child is out in public they must be happy and well behaved. And if they dare to not behave the parent must react enough to appease those who assume the child gets no discipline, but not abusively, because EVERYONE has an opinion about the 15 secs of parenthood they glimpse in a store.
By the time the child is 4 they must be able to sit quietly in church, walk quietly in stores, and eat quietly in restaurants. Childishness should be reserved for only those times it is cute for the adults watching. In other words, children should not ever interefere with the lives or desires of their parents, they don't get to have needs beyond the basic human ones, and those are delegated to times and places.
Well let me tell you, my son is 3, and I gurantee he is MORE than most of the other children. He can't sit still, he hates boundaries or quietness. He gets up early and goes to bed late and is always hungry, probably because he burns off his food so fast with all of his activity. He doesn't always know what to do with his body and sometimes will use it against other children. He has no problem throwing a fit when he doesn't get his way. He has a mind of his own, and wants to use it. Someday he will be a great leader, he will be one of those go getters that people admire. But for now, he is three, and thus is learning about life and living. AND I LOVE HIM!!!!
I refuse to bully or cow him into obedience because he's too afraid of retribution, it wouldn't work anyway. I intend to train him to use his God given personality, not try to stuff it down because it's inconvenient. He is a wonderful boy, even if he's different and difficult for adults. For people who think I'm a weak parent, or he's a bad child because he's not the ideal of what we want our children to be TOO BAD! Life is not about what you want, my child does not have to live up to YOUR standards, I will train him in such a way as to build him up, and I could care less about stuffy arrogant, do better parents that get their kicks judging themselves and everyone else based upone how well their children act like an adult. ARGH!!!!
Sorry I just had to get that out.
Then immediately a toddler must be trained. There is no learning curve, no leeway given, if a small child is out in public they must be happy and well behaved. And if they dare to not behave the parent must react enough to appease those who assume the child gets no discipline, but not abusively, because EVERYONE has an opinion about the 15 secs of parenthood they glimpse in a store.
By the time the child is 4 they must be able to sit quietly in church, walk quietly in stores, and eat quietly in restaurants. Childishness should be reserved for only those times it is cute for the adults watching. In other words, children should not ever interefere with the lives or desires of their parents, they don't get to have needs beyond the basic human ones, and those are delegated to times and places.
Well let me tell you, my son is 3, and I gurantee he is MORE than most of the other children. He can't sit still, he hates boundaries or quietness. He gets up early and goes to bed late and is always hungry, probably because he burns off his food so fast with all of his activity. He doesn't always know what to do with his body and sometimes will use it against other children. He has no problem throwing a fit when he doesn't get his way. He has a mind of his own, and wants to use it. Someday he will be a great leader, he will be one of those go getters that people admire. But for now, he is three, and thus is learning about life and living. AND I LOVE HIM!!!!
I refuse to bully or cow him into obedience because he's too afraid of retribution, it wouldn't work anyway. I intend to train him to use his God given personality, not try to stuff it down because it's inconvenient. He is a wonderful boy, even if he's different and difficult for adults. For people who think I'm a weak parent, or he's a bad child because he's not the ideal of what we want our children to be TOO BAD! Life is not about what you want, my child does not have to live up to YOUR standards, I will train him in such a way as to build him up, and I could care less about stuffy arrogant, do better parents that get their kicks judging themselves and everyone else based upone how well their children act like an adult. ARGH!!!!
Sorry I just had to get that out.