dukeofhazzard
08-30-2007, 10:56 AM
Hi girls! I haven't been on GCM much lately, everything has been crazy at my house with school starting and whatnot -- we homeschool, so it's like, REALLY crazy right now ;)
Anyway, we're part of a homeschool co op that meets every other week for 3 hours (doesn't sound like much time, but TRUST ME :rolleyes4!!). S, my 4 yo is having problems in his class right now. The first week, he wasn't "participating" in something (couldn't get many details out of em), and he was taken out of the classroom for the rest of the one hour period (he stayed in another classroom with a mom and one of her kids -- he played, wasn't upset at all), this was AFTER a time out and a "talking to", which I was pretty upset about, I mean, come get me!! I was subbing in another class but they could have come and gotten me.
Then the next week, the same teacher that did that pulled me aside after class and asked me if S had ever been diagnosed with ADD! I was like :hunh?!? He's my most focused child! My difficulty is getting him to STOP one activity to move on to another ;). I called the other teacher (there are two teachers for every one hour period) and asked what she thought and her response was that his behavior wasn't "ADD"ish at all, and that he seemed no different than any other 4 y/o, but that she was a laid back mom, so she didn't really sweat the small stuff ( I really think I like this lady ;)). I was feeling better after that, but then decided that I'd like input from the teachers of the other two periods to make sure everything was ok, because S has been telling me (like EVERY DAY) that he doesn't want to go to co op anymore :cry.
So I got an email back from two of the teachers, and they were almost identical. S doesn't listen well, he doesn't like to do what the group is doing, he "expects them to cater to him" , but they are "willing to work with him" and if he can "get him to obey" things will be fine. (for reference, the phrases in quotes are taken straight out of the emails).
This group is VERY punitive, but it hasn't really been an issue until this semester. Is there something *I* can do at home to help him be more cooperative? He's never done well in large groups, he's always the kid playing by himself -- and he's always happy with that.
I've considered quitting (I'm pretty certain we won't be signing up for another semester as A, my 5 y/o doesn't like it very much either), but I volunteered to be a lead teacher and they'd have to get one of the other mom's to take my place if I quit, I don't want to be dishonorable, you know? And what would I give as my reason? My kids are miserable?
HELP!
(If this would be more appropriate in another folder, please feel free to move it, I wasn't sure exactly where to put it, sorry :))
Anyway, we're part of a homeschool co op that meets every other week for 3 hours (doesn't sound like much time, but TRUST ME :rolleyes4!!). S, my 4 yo is having problems in his class right now. The first week, he wasn't "participating" in something (couldn't get many details out of em), and he was taken out of the classroom for the rest of the one hour period (he stayed in another classroom with a mom and one of her kids -- he played, wasn't upset at all), this was AFTER a time out and a "talking to", which I was pretty upset about, I mean, come get me!! I was subbing in another class but they could have come and gotten me.
Then the next week, the same teacher that did that pulled me aside after class and asked me if S had ever been diagnosed with ADD! I was like :hunh?!? He's my most focused child! My difficulty is getting him to STOP one activity to move on to another ;). I called the other teacher (there are two teachers for every one hour period) and asked what she thought and her response was that his behavior wasn't "ADD"ish at all, and that he seemed no different than any other 4 y/o, but that she was a laid back mom, so she didn't really sweat the small stuff ( I really think I like this lady ;)). I was feeling better after that, but then decided that I'd like input from the teachers of the other two periods to make sure everything was ok, because S has been telling me (like EVERY DAY) that he doesn't want to go to co op anymore :cry.
So I got an email back from two of the teachers, and they were almost identical. S doesn't listen well, he doesn't like to do what the group is doing, he "expects them to cater to him" , but they are "willing to work with him" and if he can "get him to obey" things will be fine. (for reference, the phrases in quotes are taken straight out of the emails).
This group is VERY punitive, but it hasn't really been an issue until this semester. Is there something *I* can do at home to help him be more cooperative? He's never done well in large groups, he's always the kid playing by himself -- and he's always happy with that.
I've considered quitting (I'm pretty certain we won't be signing up for another semester as A, my 5 y/o doesn't like it very much either), but I volunteered to be a lead teacher and they'd have to get one of the other mom's to take my place if I quit, I don't want to be dishonorable, you know? And what would I give as my reason? My kids are miserable?
HELP!
(If this would be more appropriate in another folder, please feel free to move it, I wasn't sure exactly where to put it, sorry :))