Marzipan
08-28-2007, 03:38 PM
What am I going to do with this child?! I expected things to get a little tougher once ds was mobile, but this is just nuts. She thinks she can push/drag/carry/bonk him anyway and any time she pleases. Even when she's just playing she's too rough...I finally end up telling her she cannot touch him at all since she seems unable to do so gently. I left the room for a second today to take something out of the oven, and I come back in and she is *dragging* him off of the beanbag chair.
I tell her, of course, "C is in charge of his body-- you may not move it for him. If you need him to move, you need to tell Mommy or Daddy." It is just not processing. Finally I get exasperated from pulling her off of him, and I just make her sit in a chair for awhile so I don't have to deal with it. Then she pokes him with her feet when he crawls near it. She is not being violent, just persistent.
Everything is hard with her right now. She has all of a sudden decided anything I ask of her is totally optional...and seems to delight in frustrating me. Of course, I *know I shouldn't take it personally, and I just need to GOMB, but seriously-- these are things we did not have a problem with before. Oh, and the throwing things. For instance, yesterday, she chunked her basket of finger puppets...I told her "you may not throw your toys...when you throw them, they get put away." As *soon* as I finished the sentence, she walks over to her basket of doll clothes and hurls them across the room. :banghead Really, I guess removing the toys that she throws is reasonable...so I just have to wait for her to figure out it's going to happen every time?
I tell her, of course, "C is in charge of his body-- you may not move it for him. If you need him to move, you need to tell Mommy or Daddy." It is just not processing. Finally I get exasperated from pulling her off of him, and I just make her sit in a chair for awhile so I don't have to deal with it. Then she pokes him with her feet when he crawls near it. She is not being violent, just persistent.
Everything is hard with her right now. She has all of a sudden decided anything I ask of her is totally optional...and seems to delight in frustrating me. Of course, I *know I shouldn't take it personally, and I just need to GOMB, but seriously-- these are things we did not have a problem with before. Oh, and the throwing things. For instance, yesterday, she chunked her basket of finger puppets...I told her "you may not throw your toys...when you throw them, they get put away." As *soon* as I finished the sentence, she walks over to her basket of doll clothes and hurls them across the room. :banghead Really, I guess removing the toys that she throws is reasonable...so I just have to wait for her to figure out it's going to happen every time?