DH is NOT supportive

[craftymom75]

I have gone back and forth with vegetarianism since I was 15. But now that I am older (32)and diabetes and heart disease
runs rampant on both sides of my family, I researched and decided to go vegan. Now I told DH this two weeks ago. I also told him
that I would make him 'regular' food. He threw a minor fit because ," I won't convert him to my crazy hippie/voodoo ways. " (True quote) ( We are so opposite it's scary. But our core beliefs are the same. Go figure. ) Anyway he's not supportive. During the day the kids eat what I eat and when he's home I'm making two different meals or a full meat-meal and two vegan side dishes so that I can eat dinner.
Does anyone else have a non-supportive dh, and how do you handle it?

[HuggaBuggaMommy]

I don't have a dh, but I live with my parents and do the same thing - make a regular meal with vegan side dishes or two meals. One thing that helped is freezing meal-sized portions of vegan meals to defrost when I don't feel like cooking separate meals.

No other advice, just a :hug2 .

[ShangriLewis]

I'm sorry, but perhaps after he realizes you are sticking to it and feeling and looking healthier he will change his mind and have a better opinion of it.

[Linnis]

My DH does not support me. It usually becomes a fight. So I make two seperate meals. If he gives me too much grief I just don't cook his. :shifty

[SouthPaw]

my dh throws a fit if i do so much as buy wheat bread instead of white. :rolleyes2 it's hard when they are stuck in their ways. :hug

[ShangriLewis]

:( I'm really sorry ladies. I've had people be really rude to me over it before, but it would hurt so much if my dh treated me that way over food.

[krysmh]

:hug2

Mine is supportive of me, but will not consider going veggie himself. So I too make two meals sometimes. But he's not rude about it or anything, he's just a meat eater and I'm alright with that... his body does not do well on a strict vegetarian diet.

It's a difficult balance and it stinks cooking extra, but it's worth it for us. I hope you can find a balance in your home too. :hug2

[craftymom75]

Thanks. I was really feeling alone. I'm hoping with A LOT of prayer and baby steps it will get better.

[Zipporah]

Dh believes the meat board propaganda and isn't afraid to share his opinion (at the same time as disagreeing with the way animals are raised and slaughtered... :scratch-and he only believes scientific research if it agrees with his POV to start with so there's no point trying to convince him with rational argument :shrug)

I tend to cook one meal and add meat to dh's portion or sometimes do non-meat meal with a meat variation if it's something freezable (like lasagna). The rule is that whoever cooks and writes the shopping list (me ;) ) gets to make the decisions about what's for dinner (on the condition that there's something suitable for everyone)-so everyone eats basically the same thing most of the time.

[mommylove]

I'm a vegetarian of 28 years; DH was raised on a farm (meat & potatoes boy.) I usually make 2 dinners & it's not a big deal.

I've found that when I decide to try something new I either do it gradually in a way that not noticeable until after the fact, or I do it in a way that doesn't affect him.

Good luck.

[kandykidsaturn]

Well, when chloes dad and i were living together, i was a veterinarian, and he was not, nor did he even want to TRY any of my food. So, me being myself made him fix his own meals. I told him that i would make meals that were like meat, but if he wanted real meat, he had to make it himself. See, i wasnt doing it only for the health issues, i was also doing it because of animal cruelty.