Titus2Momof4
08-24-2006, 08:11 PM
As much as this has been a struggle to employ PD and not spank, I have really rec'd some encouragement from the kids the past 2 days. A few times, they would come up to me, climb on my lap (which they never really did before), or just come up to me and hug me (again, something they never really did) and say "You're the best mommy in the world!" or "I love you sooooo much!" :cry Of course it isn't that they haven't been *disciplined* lately...but it's been positive discipline, and I am amazed at how they are reacting towards me. Dh and I have been cuddling a lot, both in non-confrontational times and during meltdowns (although mostly me during meltdowns because he feels like he doesn't know what to do, but he is really *seeing* how it has been working). I just feel so "right" with this. Like I don't have this feeling in the back of my mind that I'm damaging my relationship w/the kids (as I have wondered in the past). Even though dh was the one who initially said he didn't want to spank anymore, during meltdowns he can't help but feel like there should be some punishment, and that I'm rewarding the meltdown. I have been giving a sort of play-by-play pointing out to him that even though I am cuddling/rocking a child on my lap (during a meltdown) that I am *not* giving in to what it was the child wanted, therefore not 'rewarding' the meltdown. He :yes and :think
But anyway.... the real encouragement has been in the openness the kids have been sharing of their love for mommy in just the past 2 days, which they had never really done before. We just were not 'touchy feely, lovey dovey', but I can see that they really crave that and enjoy it. :heart
But anyway.... the real encouragement has been in the openness the kids have been sharing of their love for mommy in just the past 2 days, which they had never really done before. We just were not 'touchy feely, lovey dovey', but I can see that they really crave that and enjoy it. :heart