TraceMama
07-24-2006, 05:15 PM
I'll try to make this brief and to the point without venting about my MIL's lack of control over her words while she was at our house for a week. Unfortunately, while she was with our ds (2yrs 8 mos), a car drove by and threw a firecracker out of the window. It absolutely freaked ds out and he was crying/screaming inconsolably. She explained the behavior with "Stupid people throw firecrackers out of cars." Even though she realized her mistake, she continued to use the explanation as she carried him down the block to our house.
The word is now firmly cemented in his brain. He doesn't use it often, but I need some tools to use when he does. Tonight he used it on our salad dressing..."Stupid, water, salad dressing...." I told him that we don't use that word in our house to which he replied that he could say it outside. I then told him that "stupid" is not a kind or gentle word and we don't use it. He retold the story of the people and the firecracker and I told him that Grandma shouldn't say that word either. When he used it again, I scooped him up and gave him a break on my lap in the rocking chair in his bedroom. While there, I reaffirmed that we don't use that word and that he needs to listen to me.
Did I do that right? Is there anything else I can do? How do the 5 steps apply in this situation?
The word is now firmly cemented in his brain. He doesn't use it often, but I need some tools to use when he does. Tonight he used it on our salad dressing..."Stupid, water, salad dressing...." I told him that we don't use that word in our house to which he replied that he could say it outside. I then told him that "stupid" is not a kind or gentle word and we don't use it. He retold the story of the people and the firecracker and I told him that Grandma shouldn't say that word either. When he used it again, I scooped him up and gave him a break on my lap in the rocking chair in his bedroom. While there, I reaffirmed that we don't use that word and that he needs to listen to me.
Did I do that right? Is there anything else I can do? How do the 5 steps apply in this situation?